When you're drunk, you become automatically hot and aroused.
ZZ: Absolutely, also, I think there's something to be said about spontaneous desire and responsive desire. With all that being said, there's nothing wrong with drunk sex, but when you get too drunk, it's an issue. When you go to sex parties, you don't often see people who are completely wasted because there's this understanding that you can't fully consent then. TL: Yeah, at sex parties and in the BDSM community, there is a huge conversation on enthusiastic consent and alcohol. ZZ: Yeah, there's no harm in trying, right? Obviously, when you're sober, you'd be subbing a lot safer. I mean, I think it's clear that they know that they like being a sub. TL: Yeah, so I think he should ask himself: through the context of your sexual identity, what is alcohol giving you that allows you to embrace this other side of yourself? Maybe you don't need that liquid courage. ZZ: How can you know if this is something you’re afraid to try out sober because you have some sexual shame, or if you’re actually not into this but for some reason, while drunk, you are? Are there things you can ask yourself? So I'm curious if they are into the kinky shit only when they have some liquid courage or are they genuinely interested in this kinky shit? Alcohol obviously can lower our inhibitions, and it seems like a different side of them might come out when they drink. TL: I wish this person was here because I have follow-up questions. Like I really love being submissive and doing some kinky shit when I'm fucked up, but not while I'm sober. I feel like my sexual desires differ when I’m drunk/high than when sober.